So, the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) has been renewed by Congress. Now the legal battles begin to have the Supreme Court declare it unconstitutional based on its bias against men assault by women, and children abused by mothers. Billions will be spent on programs to promote the myth that all women are victims, that all men are either abusers or potential abusers, and that children abused by anyone, other than men, are not really being abused. Or, that mothers who abuse their children are victims and are not to be blamed. According to the study, ‘Murder in the Family’ by the US Justice Dept. (1998) mothers account for 55% of all fatal child abuse, regardless whether they are custodial, non-custodial, or part of an intact family. Fathers account for 8%. Makes one wonder about the safety of children living at ‘women’s shelters.’
Over 180 studies, including the one most commonly sited, show that women begin the physical side of an argument over 50% of the time. Ask any female police officer and you’ll learn how often a domestic violence call turns out to be a woman battering a man, or trying to get him to hit her. The officers are frustrated by the fact that there’s no place men can call for help. Government financed programs, either helps women only, or provide little resources to help men and their children. So the man is left with the choice of leaving the home, but leaving the children in the care of the abuser.
If we’re to address the issues of domestic violence, we must address the whole issue. When a woman shows up at a hospital with a black eye, we need to be asking if she was urging the man to hit her. One hit and all the power of the government, and women’s groups, come to play on her side, regardless of whether it was a mutual fight, or whether she had also been abusing the children. It would be assumed that if the children were being abused, that somehow they had caused it. Just ask Mary Bass or Dr. Debra Greene. In both cases they had chased off their children’s fathers.
I don’t know what needs to be done to address the ‘whole’ domestic violence issue, but something needs to be done. If not for the men, than for the children who not only face an abusive mother, but give their very lives for society’s ignorance about domestic violence.
What I can recommend is to read the essay, than read ‘Men Don’t Tell’ by Annette. This Missouri woman grew up watching her father, a local County Sheriff Deputy, being battered by her mother. He’s deceased now, but only after enduring years of abuse, and when he tried to leave being charged with domestic violence. Testimony by his daughters made the difference between freedom and imprisonment. But, that freedom was fleeting, because just months later he died. This story will bring to heart the problems of domestic violence against men. Problems that the VAWA not only ignores, but promotes the idea that men cannot be abused by a woman.